Dating can be a daunting task for teenagers, and this week we tackled the purpose of dating — to lead toward marriage.

There is nothing in the Bible that says that dating is NOT allowed (sorry, parents). However, while dating may be technically allowed, it’s not always the right decision.

Like Paul says in 1 Corinthians 10:23, “‘All things are lawful’, but not all things are helpful. ‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things build up.” We shouldn’t be asking ourselves whether or not we are “technically allowed” to do something or if it’s wrong, but we should be asking whether it is beneficial for us.

So, is dating beneficial for teenagers? Here is a quick temperature check:

  1. Does this person share my love for Jesus?
  2. Will we help each other grow in our faith?
  3. Can I see us growing together for a lifetime?

If you answered “no” to any of these questions, you shouldn’t be seriously dating that person!

If you think are ARE ready for casual dating, though, here are a few tips:

  1. Focus on building your relationship.
    1. If most of your time together is spent staring at a screen, not speaking, or being physical, you’re not building the relationship.
  2. Date in groups.
  3. Set good boundaries.
    1. Physical Boundaries
    2. Emotional Boundaries
  4. Date a Jesus-follower.
  5. Date with purpose.



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